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Mommy is Back

Tuesday, March 17th, 2009

It is quite a while since I wrote after the last blog.

Sachin and I have become very busy (even before Radhika came back) starting with the preparations for mommy’s return, then the actual surprise party and then enjoying the time with mommy.

Radhika is back now and Sachin and I are sooooooooo happy that we could not find time for anything else.

In any case, I thought I should provide my feedback on how it is going.

Sachin has continued to do some of the things he learnt while he was alone with me, such as praying to God before going to bed, eating four nuts each morning, managing his own items, etc. Radhika was quite happy to see it and I was very happy about it too.

I am going to India for 10 days in April and I hope to continue this blog to write about how I feel while I am away there.

Will try to continue to update as much as I can.

18 Days – Day 15 – Three More Days – 12-Mar-2009

Friday, March 13th, 2009

Sachin and  I are eagerly looking forward to Radhika’s return back here. We carried out our routine normally and then went to McDonalds for dinner.

Sachin and I had a big debate on what ‘Reading Time’ means.  While I said it stands for ‘Sachin will read his book and daddy will read his book’, Sachin claims that it stands for ‘everyone will read a bed time story book’.  We decided to ask Radhika for her comments.

Will update tomorrow on the decision on this.

18 Days – Day 14 – Almost There – 11-Mar-2009

Thursday, March 12th, 2009

Sachin and I had a good time on Day 14 of our ’18 days without Radhika’.

I managed to get out of work by 5pm and picked him up at 5.30pm. He was quite happy when I told him that I was early today. He has always asked me to come early, but I could not do it before. We came home and did quite a lot of things together: watched tv, had dinner, worked on the home work, read a book and finally spent about 30 minutes on the phone with his thatha.

Sachin was not very happy with his thatha’s stories about animals (eg. cock and bull story) and also about how dinasour ate vada from the old lady. He also got very angry when thatha asked sachin to send the new car as a gift to him when daddy comes to India in exchange for new dinosaur toys he is sending with mummy.

I felt quite happy that Sachin and I did most of the things together yesterday, but am still worried that we are lagging behind in the robot activity which we have not yet started.

We have just four more days before Radhika will be back. We are both looking forward to Sunday 🙂

18 Days – Day 13 – Is the Honeymoon period over? – 10-Mar-2009

Wednesday, March 11th, 2009

Sachin and I had one of the most difficult days so far, during this 18 days experience.

He came home after school and was quite impatient – so i realized he must be hungry and gave him some snacks. He immediately wanted to watch TV during his game time. I let him do that while he was eating his snack.

He wanted to drink milk shake from McD and so we thought it might be easy if he also has his dinner there. He was quite happy. So we left for McD. He brought his Nintendo DS along with him and started playing the game in the car. I told him that he should stop after 5 minutes and talk to me. (I realized we had not made any progress with his ‘Robot’ project at school and we should start it somewhere.) On the way, I asked him to pause his game for 10 minutes and talk to me about the school project and then continue with his game. I paused it, but kept opening the game console frequently during our conversation. I told him that he is not getting the happy meal if he does it again – he did it again. I turned the car around and came home – I also let him know that he is not getting his happy meal because daddy is not happy.

Once home, Sachin ate 3 idlis (thanks to V…tha), one roti (thanks to Bhavani Cash and Carry) and the tomato-dal curry (thanks to P…tha). I guess in future also he will relate Indian food as ‘punishment food’, but I did not know of any other option..remember I was hungry too..and a hungry man is a angry man..imagine two of us :-). I also had my dinner along with him.

After dinner we did our home work review and Sachin fixed all the mistakes he made in the home work done at after care.  We did not read the book today as both of us were very sleepy.

Oh I forgot to mention..yesterday his major complaint was that I was on the phone when he is about to go to bed and I am on the phone when he wakes up. So Sachin complained that it was bothering his sleep. I decided not to attend any phone calls in the night and have not spoken to anyone in the night when Sachin and I are ready to go to bed. Radhika also used to complain that no matter which room I was in, upstairs, the entire conversation could be heard in all the other rooms upstairs. Her advise to me was to go downstairs to talk.  I prefer not to talk..I hope that solves the problem.

After the confrontational incidents yesterday and today, for a minute I thought the honeymoon period is over – I hope not!

I also thought about why he was so cranky and thought one reason could be the day light saving. He has been waking up one hour early in the past two days and by the time it is 7pm – he is actually already awake for one hour extra. May be not. I dont know, but I know I have to help him get his comfort level back with me.

Will try my best today.

18 Days – Day 12 – Sachin Bowled Me Out – 9-Mar-2009

Tuesday, March 10th, 2009

Day 12 was the most interesting day so far from a ‘learning experience’ standpoint after Radhika went to India.

We had a regular working day and at the end of it, we came home and started doing our usual routine.

Since Sachin completes some of his home work at after care, I review it at home to see if everything is ok and if something is not, I try to help him learn the correct way of doing it.

I noticed that in one page he had made a mistake and his teacher had circled it. So I asked him ‘Sachin, how come your teacher has reviewed it, Daddy did not check this page before.’ Immediately, Sachin said ‘Daddy, you are so bad..I wish Mummy was here…you forgot to check my bag on Friday, Saturday and Sunday..today I went to school without completing my home work!!!’. Then he explained that the homework was from Fridays and I had not checked it.

I was puzzled as I remembered asking him on Friday evening while picking up at the after care if he did his home work. He said ‘Daddy, on Fridays we dont do our homework – it is no home work day on Fridays’. I felt good and thought ‘Wow, I wish I had this when I was a kid’.  So I asked him – ‘Sachin, do you remember you told me that you do not have any home work on Fridays’. He immediately replied – ‘Noooooo. I did not say that. I said we dont do home work at after care on Fridays’.

It was then that I realized the mistake I made – I assumed that when said no home work there was no home work to be done, but he in his own simple way said no home work at after care.

I felt very bad after that. On top of it, I also realized I missed checking the Friday Report which they send once in two weeks. I signed it today and also met his teacher and apologized for the follow ups related to Sachin that I missed doing during the weekend.

I still feel bad about this, but this learning experience has made me stronger in my role as a parent and I feel proud of it.

Thanks to you Sachu 🙂

18 Days – Day 11 – Hats off to Radhika – 8-Mar-2009

Monday, March 9th, 2009

Sachin and I started our Sunday with the day light saving into effect. I had a tough time trying to explain the concept to him and gave it up for now – will try again in a year or two.

I did some of the laundry work today at home and realized how much of work Radhika has been doing all these days without saying a word. Man, this is one of the most boring things in life and yet I was so ignorant of this task that she did every time without saying a word about it.

Sachin and I went to Costo and then Walmart and got his Bakugan game today.  I told him that this is his Wednesday toy given to him ahead of time.  I also told him that he has to be a good boy this whole week or I will take the toy away from him.

We practised out E-i-e-i-oops tonight also and recorded it. Havent had the time to publish it yet to the site. Hope to do so very soon.

18 Days – Day 10 – Home Day again – 7-Mar-2009

Sunday, March 8th, 2009

I cant believe this. Sachin woke up at around 8 am and the first words were ‘Im boss’. I think he loves that sense of control so much that he started the day with it.

I made world’s largest pancake again beating my own world record set last week.

One of the ‘tha’ friends (V…tha) gave us lunch and I fed Sachin rice, dal and two vegetables. He would have never eaten even one bit of it, if not for the Nintendo DS game.

After lunch, we cleaned up Sachin’s room together. I saw a few pieces and told Sachin that I am putting all the Lego pieces together.  He gave me a 10 minute explanation of why those pieces were not Lego pieces. Now I know the difference between Bionicle, Lego and KNex pieces.

We went to the library and returned a book – got two DVDs – one Power Ranger movie dvd and one Hindi movie.

It was 68 degrees outside and so we decided to go out and play for some time in the play park.

After playing outside, I was very tired, it appears he still had the energy.

I prepared his Mac and Cheese for dinner (as I had promised him this while we were having our lunch) and we watched the Power Ranger movie while we had our  dinner.

We took care of the clothes to be washed and after two rounds of it, felt exhausted.

We spoke to Radhika after that and told her about all the events of the day. I am sure she felt happy that we are doing all these things.

18 Days – Day 9 – Half Way Mark – 6-Mar-2009

Saturday, March 7th, 2009

We are on Day 9 – Exactly at the half way mark.

We had a good friday – nothing out of the ordinary but spent the day happily, looking forward to the weekend – just missing Radhika a lot.

At this point, we have spent 9 days together without Radhika, the first time ever in my life with Sachin without Radhika for 9 days.

Here are a few things that went as per the plan:
We woke up as per plan
We had our breakfast as per plan
We attended school as per plan
We ate dinner as per plan
We did our home work as per plan
We did our book reading as per plan
We went to bed as per plan
We did not watch TV at all – as per plan
We did not play on the Computer – as per plan

Here are a few things that did not go as per plan:
We did not exercise together as per plan
I had to feed Sachin many times while he played on his Nintendo.
I had to put his socks on for him which I was hoping he would learn to do himself

Next week is the last week before Radhika comes back on Sunday. I hope to focus on the above items that did not go as per plan and try and make sure Sachin does those things himself.

Looking forward to the weekend.

18 Days – Day 8 – E I E I Oops – 5-Mar-2009

Friday, March 6th, 2009

Sachin and I had a routine morning.

We went to the Indian store in the evening and he got very angry when I mentioned to him that we were going there. He then explained that it would take a long, long, long, long time and will cut down his other plans for the evening (read as ‘Playing Nindento DS game time’). I promised to him that I will get him out of there in less than 10 minutes. We finished our shopping in the store within 8 minutes. He was quite happy 🙂

I let Sachin play during dinner time today and could not believe it when he ate all his rotis and the spicy channa masala without any complaint.  I guess I have to find a way to make him eat this way, without the game in his hand.

After that I reviewed his home work with him and both of us realized some of the mistakes made in mathematics (less than, greater than, equal to task) and fixed them.

Sachin has a spelling test on fridays so we went over the ten words that he has to be proficient in this week. I was quite happy at the way he has memorized their spellings. Looking forward to the test results this evening.

We then practised our E I E I Ooops presentation content, in preparation for the show later this month. The show date is confirmed at the end of the month and Radhika will be with us for the show. 🙂

I recorded Sachin’s preparation of singing of E I E I Oops, now have to find a way to upload it and attach it to this site. Will try do it in the simplest way possible.

18 Days – Day 7 – Welcome Kirby – 4-Mar-2009

Thursday, March 5th, 2009

It is wednesday and Sachin and I started the day talking about what bionicle we are going to get in the evening..remember it is Wednesday.

I was also thinking of Gresh, a bionicle that Sachin did not have and was looking forward to getting the good guy, Gresh and playing a game with Sachin as he already has a bad guy, Glatorian.

In the evening, when I picked up Sachin he said he changed his mind and instead wanted a Nintendo DS game. We went to Walmart and found Kirby Super Star Ultra game and were quite thrilled to get this game.

We then went to Subway and had our dinner. Then we went to Costco and did some quick shopping. We came home and Sachin started playing the Kirby game.

Sachin’s narration from here: In the Kirby game if you swallow an enemy with B, Kirby is going to swallow an enemy and after the swallow if you press X, you get a new Kirby and the enemy’s powers will go to Kirby. And if you press X again, Kirby’s enemy will be a good guy on Kirby’s side. So if you swallow another enemy and if you have someone on your side already, Kirby will turn to that enemy’s powers again. But if you press X and if you already have someone in your side, Kirby will spit out the enemy, but the enemy will be destroyed and the key will be destroyed and will get out of Kirby’s mouth. But Kirby’s enemy that she just spitted out with X and he has some one out of his side, Kirby will be Kirby, just no animal Kirby, thats it. But if Kirby swallows one of the enemy’s and he takes those powers away and the enemy on Kirby’s side and if you get to the boss, the enemy will help you, but if the enemy’s energy is gone only Kirby is there. But if the enemy is still on Kirby’s side and fighting the boss, Kirby’s powers and his enemy on his side will be the same on the same level. But if you want to be a different Kirby you need to spit out the key with an X. Even the powerfulest one is the enemy on the first level that comes to Kirby, because if you just press A and you dont leave it, a very big attack will come. Even yellow star blocks can break if a jump hits the block (or the attack I just told you about can hit 10 or 20 blocks. I dont know.) Well, I think that could be all..whoever is seeing this message..ok…good night.